Being a “product of their times” is no excuse. Never let someone off the hook for bigotry.
You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in.
if you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?
Rule 1: Don’t let someone be too important in your life.
I wonder how many times you’ve compared me to her.